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Living Out the Ninth Commandment and Giving it to Our Children

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Episode Synopsis

Jani and Heidi remind us how truth stabilizes all our relationships and show us practical ways to guide our children into a life of honesty.

Audio Transcript

Key Takeaways

  • God’s will for us is that every word we speak would be solid, trustworthy, and real.
  • What is the positive of the Ninth Commandment?
  • Don’t let gossip buzz around your house. Don’t listen to it, engage in it, or share it.
  • Make it as easy as possible for others to tell you the truth, especially young children.
  • We have to be truth tellers ourselves. When we lie, we must be humble enough to confess it and make it right.


“I believe our words should be life-giving, not just honest. Nourishing, not just truthful.”

Jani Ortlund

“The scorpion carries poison in his tail. The slander carries poison in his tongue.”

Thomas Watson

“If a report is unnecessary hairy and unkind and might just be a little exaggerated in our own tongues rendering of it and become more exaggerated in the retelling of it the next time, we better be silent about it. It is my tongue and your tongue that is likened to a bucking horse that is running away with its rider. It is my tongue and your tongue that is likened to the ship tossing on the waves with the rudder not properly in the hands of the expert.”

Edith Schaeffer from her book, “Lifelines: The Ten Commandments for Today”

“Sometimes it’s not so much what we say but what others say about us, that really hurts the most.”

Jani Ortlund

“We tell the kids, “if you have something really hard that you need to tell mom and dad, we want you to know that it’s safe, and you’re not going to get punished for it. Even if you have to tell us that you lied.””

Jani Ortlund

“Do all that you can to see that honesty, kindness and love govern the speech in your spheres of influence in your home, around your dinner table, on your telephone, in casual conversations in your neighborhood, with your child’s teacher, or with your extended family. Your child needs to see that you honor the truth and that you want to be known as a truth teller.”

Jani Ortlund

Scripture Passages

“The tongue of the righteous is choice silver… the lips of the righteous feed many.”

Proverbs 10:20-21

“If a man does not stumble in what he says, he is able to bridle his whole body. But no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.”

James 3:2, 8

“Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life. He who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.”

Proverbs 13:3

“Finally, all of you have unity of mind sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart and a humble mind, do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling. But, on the contrary, bless. For to this you were called that you may obtain a blessing. For whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking, deceit.”

1 Peter 3:8-10

“When reviled, we bless. When persecuted, we endure. When slandered, we entreat.”

1 Corinthians 4:12-13

“… [Jesus] entrusted himself to him who judges rightly.”

1 Peter 2:23

“Set a guard, Oh Lord, over my mouth. Keep watch over the door of my lips.”

Psalm 141:3

“I am the way, the truth, and the life.”

John 14:6

“There are six things that the Lord hates. Seven that are an abomination to him. Haughty eyes, a lying tongue…”

Proverbs 6:16

“ A false witness will not go unpunished. He who breathes out lies will not escape.”

Proverbs 19:5

Thank You

Thank you for joining us today. This podcast is generously funded through Renewal Ministries. If you would like to discover more about Jani and Ray’s ministry or make a donation, visit their website at renewalministries.com. If you have a question for Jani or would like to learn more about this podcast, please visit our website at herestoresmysoul.org.

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